Why does it seem like the people who want to get pregnant, can’t, while those who possibly shouldn’t, do? Becoming pregnant for the couple who has been unsuccessful becomes the focus of their life. Like it or not, everyday it enters the mind in one way or another. It becomes an obsession although they try hard to make it not so.
Many try and try, then eventually give up. Not consciously, but the discouragement sets in and eventually the deliberateness of it wanes. It’s hard on the couple. If the couple chooses to go the conventional treatment route, there are serious costs involved, but the success rates frequently lure them this direction.
That’s well and good, but I’d like to know WHY? Why can’t you get pregnant? Statistically only 10% of women suffer from unexplained infertility. Put in other words they don’t show up on the standard means of testing. There is no visual pathological change, no obvious hormonal imbalance or other abnormal finding in either husband or wife. Just because it isn’t obvious doesn’t mean there is no cause. The body finds something seriously enough wrong that in its innate intelligence prevents the pregnancy. After all, if it can’t manage the thing we call a body, why would it try to manage an additional one? We could ask the same question regarding the other 90% of the infertility cases in which we find the causative factor. The trick is finding the WHY of it.
If the woman has polycystic ovarian syndrome preventing her from getting pregnant, WHY? Find that out, heal the “PCOS” and the problem is solved (by the way, the cause is known and treatable without surgery). If a woman’s hormones are out of balance, WHY? Get them back into balance via the route that threw them out in the first place! Yes, you can take drugs to force them back (only to a degree) enough to get pregnant, but is the problem solved? No. The reason why the imbalance occurred in the first place still exists – it’s only masked over to look “okay”. That’s fine if your only goal is pregnancy. But if you want to be WELL, you need more.
Having a baby isn’t just having a baby. It is building a body. The mother’s body has to support itself, the increased physiological load the pregnancy places on it, and build a baby at the same time. That’s a lot of work and a lot of drain on a woman’s body before and after delivery. You wouldn’t normally try to tie your shoes with your hand tied behind your back. Why would you try that with building a baby? You want to know what went wrong in the first place so that pregnancy isn’t about mere survival, but two humans thriving!
Pregnancy isn’t supposed to be day after day of morning sickness (and NO, morning sickness is NOT a sign of a “healthy pregnancy” which is so wrongly purported). The suffering part of pregnancy should really only be towards the end when the weight and cumbersome aspect become more difficult. The rest should be a joyous experience. So why isn’t it? Why is it that the body “crashes” after a pregnancy? Why can’t we sustain a pregnancy?
Of the more than 6.1 million reported cases (not including the many who don’t get pregnant, but aren’t trying either), the “fault” lies with men and women equally, many times with both. Statistics show that in the past 50 years the male sperm count has dropped in third. One statistic said that it appears to be dropping in half every-other generation and that at the rate of decline man will cease to exist by the end of the century! This is a serious problem! But what is causing it? A toxic environment, a diet devoid of any quality nutrients, stress, etc. have been blamed. But WHY?
©2005 Holly A. Carling, O.M.D., L.Ac., Ph.D.